Conversations with god-4

Annoyed by everybody's obsession with the marks and the percentage............I inquired to god......... 

Why everybody goes gaga over their marks. It’s a mere reflection of someone’s capabilities?

Look, the society has made it like that over the years. People who are respected are people who are toppers in their schools; people who are applauded are people who are gold medalist. In the process, capabilities have dried up, innovation is a forgone past leaving out the exception and interpersonal skills have declined.

This is the reason everybody loves seeing himself/herself scoring good marks and gets applauded. But more important is your attitude after securing those marks.

But why society has made it like that?

See, as a student everyone wants to see him/ her getting appreciation from people around them and this is a benchmark used by them to do the same. Companies use criteria to churn the best minds. Society has no fault in that, faulty line is mentality.

Mind is not the problem, mindset is…………!!!!!!!

It is a mere reflection of your capabilities........syllabus of life has more chapters.........

Can’t we remove this benchmark and come up with something new?

You can try for that but over the years you have also grown up doing that. We are going on a double sided path where at one stage innovation, with the help of technology, has made lives easier but at the same time, has fed human being with a golden spoon.

Everybody is becoming a slave of their own expectations and simultaneously run for fulfilling expectations of people around them. There is no way out right now.

So, should we let the situation becoming worse from bad?

Well, not exactly. Everybody has its own choices and own conscience. They are the best observer of their own capabilities and hence they should decide whether to run for marks or to run for quality. People who run for marks are people who become disabled in the long run.

Because in the long run, money doesn’t chase marks, it chases quality………..!!!!!!!!!!!!!g

Strange but effective.........!!!!!

LIFE@IMS- Interesting, Magnifying, Serene………… yet there are more dimensions to this journey. The journey, destination of which is not yet decided because it is more or less in your own hands, is not only about earning those lofty packages, yearning for the charm of holy bath…….it is beyond that……. It will be transformational, if pursued effectively, but will add nothing to your skills if pursued ineffectively…….

It is a journey of making yourself a good individual at first place, a good leader at second place and a good manager at third………..and hence the journey can be full of surprises, you will come across every sort of people-good or bad but will add to your learning basket, would be eventful, would be stagnant too……… but improvement never stops…….!!!!!!!!!

But how to do that…………..here are some strange but effective advice…………….

Don't run for marks: We live in a society where marks are given preference over skills and therefore i see everybody around me running for marks because we have made ourselves like that. No marks, no gain but the reality is money chase quality, not marks. Hence, maintain a steady pointers, but don't yearn for marks sacrificing the abilities and skills.

A 70% with excellent co-curricular is much better than a 90% with nothing.

“Me engineer hu” psychology: This is one of the most highly found disease among engineers, a barrier which they have created themselves. At one point, they boast of being open to learning but create a psychological barrier of “Me Engineer hu” which limits their potential. Overcome this mental stigma as soon as possible so that you can perform effectively. Nobody is perfect, even commerce students aren’t and therefore fight the battle and cope yourself with the sea of finance, otherwise consequences can be brutal. Remember, when you make a choice, you choose its consequences also.

Remove Xenophobia (Fear of strangers): Over the ages, human being is considered to be a social animal but I see the exact opposite of it. Human being is fearful of strangers; want to live in its own interiors which restrict the growth. As my journey at IMS progressed I realized that not communicating with students from other branches was a mistake as I could have learned a lot from them. Removing another mental stigma, fear of strangers, will give your learning basket a new dimension. Communicate with students from your own class, of other branches and be a social individual. After all, growth is the ultimate result of learning.

Step out of your comfort zones: As we begin our college days, we seek our comfort zones from the day one itself. A zone where we can act freely, can behave as per what we are and a zone where we are not altered. You find 3-4 common set of people which you call a group of yours. Every other outing begins with them, ends at them. It’s good to have a common set of people around you but limit them to your personal life. Step out of your comfort zone and sit with the ugliest guy of the class, to whom you don’t like talking to. Give presentations with a group of people you hate or people you like most. Your perceptions will change and so do your canvas of thinking. 

People who are successful are the ones who perform well out of their comfort zones.......!!!!!!

Opposite gender FORMULA: This is the most strange but highly effective theory to get rid of your hesitation. Propounded by Anandita Mam which I find really well at all times states that “You must sit with your opposite gender every day. That opposite gender must not be the same everyday” The logic behind this formula is that two girls end up in gossiping, become a chatter box to each other and two boys end up themselves doing unacceptable mistakes, sharing adult jokes etc.

You won’t find the same set of people after two years, they will be changing constantly. A girl would be expected to work in shifts in a team and hence prepare for that in advance.

This journey is not about a small destination; destinations are in your hands, so make the journey a learning one and raise yourself. Increase your panorama of where you want to place yourself……….because you become what you think of yourself………….!!!!!!!!!

{Well, some of you might find this advice strange to apply but they are the most influential ones. I have personally tested them and came up with awe-inspiring results.}

5 things to do at IMS.......!!!!!!!!

As we enter into IMS for “pursuit of becoming a manager”, ending up being “Half manager” is a victory. You find new people, search for a new set of friends, new crushes, excitement of making your mark in the classroom so that the one you like can catch you, introductions, inductions, parties, placement related queries………..everything sets on really well, bunks, canteen, roadside parties, selfies, groupfies……..and amid that…..little bit of studies……..

And very soon…….you are in the exam hall giving the exams……a bit angry and a bit confused…..balance sheet doesn’t match, economics still confound you, IT gives a shit, ethics itself promote unethical ways and you see yourself missing the bus…….. Well, don’t worry…….you can still pledge yourself to be good in the next six months……..here are few things you must do in the time to come……..

1. Set your own standards: While you do anything- presentations, assignments, internal exams- it is necessary to set you own standards which will act as a mirror once you find yourself below those standards. It means setting your own benchmarks and sticking to that. In a presentation, if guy next to you is not in formals and you are following him, you are bound to face consequences a year down the line. Analyze your performances, compare with your benchmark and improve upon that. Believe me, it works well. You are here to become something, not anything.

2. Become everything from nothing: It simply refers towards utilizing every opportunity that comes your way. Have participation in activities with utmost interest; be there not for certificates but for winning and learning. Add value to your average CGPA’s by making the most of every opportunity. Being in IMS, a lot of us undermine ourselves in terms of knowledge and skills but recently few guys beat teams from IIM in IIM-Indore in quizzes. If they can do it, why you can’t. They don’t have a different DNA, but possess different aspirations. If you don’t participate, be ready to precipitate.

3. Don’t show off: We live in a novelty, self-created world where we firmly believing in showing off ourselves with second copy of Armaani watch, Wrangler denim and an expensive gadget. Nobody gives a shit to what you wear and those who give a shit actually remain in that shit only. Raise yourself above those fake presentations because circumstances reveal the truth. Wear what suits you and not what suits the eyes of others. Remember, beauty lies in the simplicity.

 4. Ask for feedbacks: This is yet another, but most important thing you must do. I used to take my personality feedbacks from girls and get myself rated on several personality variables. It doesn’t necessarily mean you work on every feedback, but must decide on your own conscience. Because, this is the only way of improving and making yourself a fit product for anybody. Sometimes it can be annoying also but keep in mind; feedback that annoy you are the feedback that you need to work on.

5. Keep good coterie of friends: You will come across a lot of people but keep yourself in good company. If somebody is hugely better than you, be his friend and absorb his/her qualities. It doesn’t mean avoiding other individuals but having good company makes a huge difference as I have met a lot of people who are busy wasting their most of times with their friends who are adding no value to them. Be with people who can add value to your objectives. Don’t flow into a river which is taking you nowhere.

"There is no place for regrets......an opportunity missed is an opportunity denied......"

Conversation with god-III

After few sleepless nights, yet another chance appeared for having a conversation with god…….and it naturally started with few investigative queries……this time on human behavior and psychology………….

I asked: I have seen people not appreciating others efforts by their sole and heart, saying congratulations became a formality for everybody. Why this is so?

God replied: As everybody gears up for clean India mission there is a great need to clean our own souls first as everybody these days is not sad because they are suffering something, but are sad because……others are happy……… and jealousy and hatred erupted as a part of everybody’s daily lives…….!!!!!

I asked: Still for few of them, others’ success works as an inspiration, but when it comes to peer group, this disease is spreading heavily and in the process, who was your friend once become your enemy?

God replied: The problem is, everybody fights for few coveted positions and no matter how much others can display helping hand for you; everybody is selfish somewhere and it breeds animosity which restricts them from congratulating others’ affectionately.

So where do the solution lie? I asked

There is no specific solution or a tablet which can cure this disease, it needs a whole lot of big heart, a resilient mind and a bearing attitude with a thought that………..

Whatever there is in bag for you, it will come catching to you……..the difference is what you deserve………..

My slumber broke as almighty left the conversation saying………….remember my son……..

Others’ failure is not your success………..!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, for most of us, congratulating or thanking others affectionately is becoming a rare art because in the hindsight we are unable to bear the brunt of our failure and others’ success…… and if you don’t agree to my thoughts…………. Do a reality check and internal assessment…….!!!!!!!!!!

The answer lies there………..

A worthy admiration.......!!!!!!!

“Your biggest admirations come from people around you……”

He is someone with whom I am not highly attached yet his positive and candid attitude magnets me towards him. He prepared hard for the campus, we did that collectively at times, yet luck evaded him in the first campus. He was left to survive to bear the brunt of University’s Internet connectivity and he was not able to make it to the next round………!!!!!!

Personally saddened, I went to him for boosting his morale and was amazed to see the positive intent with which he started preparing for the next one….!!!!!!

Later on, when three of us were selected, his bliss was highly admiring for me and in an hour he arranged a perfect holy bath for everybody of us…… In the process I saw his ability to have happiness for others………..!!!!!!!

Next campus, he was highly excited to make it count this time, grossly passionate to have some moment for himself to cheer and was equally prepared to face the brutalities a campus process can have. Unfortunately, he couldn’t make it to the interview and this time again I went to him and was flabbergasted to hear his reply:

“ Are chalta h yaar, mjhe bharosa h k ek din mera bh hoga kisi company me……”

Today, when its final results were announced, albeit he had no major stake in selected candidates, his happiness for them, excitement to congratulate them and positive spirit was worth emulating…………!!!!!!

 He is someone who is not my very close aid yet his intent make me his fan, he is not yet placed but is worth full of giving a consideration because those are the moments when you feel shattered, devastated, pessimistic and this guy always had a positive attitude towards others…….. For me whether he is placed or not, he is worth admiring in this regard……. Because when great teams lose, they also show sportsmanship spirit by shaking hands and congratulating the opponent………. And that makes them become great………!!!!!!!

“Well, you aren’t lost till the hope of winning isn’t lost…….”

We call him Pravin Kumrawat…….!!!!!!!!!

My New Inspiration........!!!!!!!!!!

“ Some people enter in your life as a mirror, just to let you realize the fact that whoever, wherever and whatever you are, you must be grateful to almighty’s blessings……..”

For an individual, who always seek inspiration from people around him, I came across this 7-year little boy who changed the way I saw my life………….. At some point of time, you tend to think miserably, feel dejected, as if all the sorrows have fallen upon you, luck has been unfair to you and everything in future will go unachieved…………… And in the process…….you stand lost and messed up……..!!!!!!

He is a small kid, thoroughly intelligent, mischievous, jovial, and energetic, enjoys his life on a broader canvas, leaving behind everything that happened with him at an early age…………. For him every festival is just enjoying in imagination, every moment is incomplete because of the tragedy he faced, for his sister celebrating Rakhi is just a short-lived dream and no consolation can pacify him…………… And still he is happy……..!!!!!!!

In an accident, he lost both of his hands and in an attempt to save his life, his mother lost her one hand, the incident took place just few months back………and whenever I see him……. I bless him rather than sympathize him…….. Because he is my new sought Inspiration…………..

Well, now I believed in the old saying……..

“Last time I wept for a branded watch was when I saw someone with no hands………..”

(P.S: Those who read this blog, I request you to sit silent for at least two minutes and pray for this little kid’s good future…….. Make a difference in someone’s life………)

Deloitte likes the Ankit way......!!!!

“Last night I wanted to sleep but it was evading me……..and today I am evading it but the tiredness is letting me break down…….”

And yet, when those words just hit the corners of my ears, neither I was feeling out of the blue not tears were dropping from my eyes, but it was just a satisfactory gesture that was evident in me…….that I got what I deserve…………….

And the feelings become over joyous when people start pouring wishes to you saying “You deserved it……..”

To sum up the whole experience, from my point of view, communication skills play a vital role in someone’s selection…….and if you don’t believe it……the best example is the writer of this blog…….

I screwed up the whole technical round, which I am not ashamed off because of the kind of pressure the situation had, it becomes confusing for everybody to answer some basic questions………and believe me…….

If life runs on basics………an interview also proceeds on basics……….but the presentation matters which is a result of good communication skills………

Nothing out of the blue in the interview……..very basic questions……but they expect the potential candidate to be passionate, energetic, vibrant, pleasant in personality, open to learning, patient and  enthusiastic so that he/she can match up with what they want…….

Keeping everything simple…….one simple advise which I give to everybody…….

“You will be selected on the basis of how you perform……and will be rejected also on the basis of how you perform…….”

Because……………they come to hire you………not to reject you…….!!!!!!!

Stay positive……cheers……!!!!!!!!!!!

Ankit…….a proud Deloittian………..

{P.S.- He loved her so much………..loved her from the bottom of his heart…….but was not able to get her……because he was not able to propose her………..so the problem was communication skills……….}