Sleepless nights.....!!!!!!!!

Somebody has rightly said: “You become what you think of………..”

“Why do you wake up so early in the morning???…….much before the standard time……….And actually the time you wake up is not morning, it is midnight………”

I asked him citing my worriedness about his situation and the undergoing trauma.

“What you guys think about it?” he posed a cross question in reply.

I remained silent for a while, thinking about how I should answer this because it could turn me emotional. I held myself back and replied:

“All of us think that you do so because you are worried about everything that is going on in your life. I know we are chained by it and the solution seems too far, but let’s take it as a part of our life till we find one.”

“I have already accepted it as a part of my life.” He replied gently.

“I know it’s easier said than done. But, we will sail the boat sooner or later.” I told with my head bowed down.

He chuckled a bit, looked at me, prompted me to look at him and said “Well, what you think is totally wrong and I am glad I proved you wrong.”

His replied left me astonished, wondering about what next would come now. He continued saying:

“Nothing is becoming an obstacle to me. Neither I feel sleepless nights because of the undergoing problem nor am I growing restless because of it.”

“Then, what is it that you are feeling sleepless nights.”  My curiosity reached at its peak.

“It is because, I envision myself at a better place, as a successful individual. I envision and plan how I can serve my students in a better way, I think of devising new and innovative ideas for them.

I see myself taking my venture to a new heights and scales, making it worthy to be part of. I feel the power of vision and experience a new motivation in me…….which is above everything………”

Unable to be in a position to speak anything further, I left the conversation saying:

“Well, you proved today………Dreams are not the one to be seen while sleeping……..they are the one which doesn't lets you sleep……..”

PEOPLE@IMS who impressed/impacted/inspired me..........

The journey comes to a conclusion, it went past like a cigarette smoke but taught a lot of lesson, made everybody of us a different person. As I look back to those two eventful years’, there are certain individuals who impressed/inspired/impacted my life in any or the other way. Let’s have a look:

SUSHIL: Positive & Pragmatic:  He was the first one with whom I had a lengthy conversation and since then we share good bonding between us. There comes a natural respect from my side (not because of his age) because his logics have impressed me, his prudent way of deciding things impacted me and his positivity inspired me.

I still remember and would remember for long, that evening of November in Gurgaon when he made a first round exit in S&P and when I came back after completing whole DAY-1 process; he was there ready for the next challenge. There was not a sense of regret (although he and I felt really bad about it) and his face was as happy as he is most of the times.

Next day, when he boarded a train back to Indore from Delhi and I stayed there for the last interview round, I consulted every answer with him in detail and he gave me proper and honest feedbacks for that. That was the kindness that is ingrained in him. Feel really good to have him as a friend.

PRAVIN: Honest & Optimistic:  This guy, cheerful and playful, like an innocent kid, met me before entering into the college because we shared the same CET Rank and Score. His Honesty has impressed me, his optimism has inspired me and his happiness for others impacted me.

The sign of honesty was evident in induction ceremony where he took the plunge and presented the whole sources of revenue and its application openly on the Facebook page. It contained details about where the money came from and where it flowed. Today, when a handful of money can make you greedy, his gesture impressed me.

Apart from that, since we prepared collectively for the placements, continuous rejections never allowed him to stumble and he kept putting the hard work with the same gusto and hope. The result was: He and Sushil, who faced rejections, finally got the highest package. And that moment was blissful for me.

ISHAN: Responsible & Helping:  There are certain occasions where I considered myself running away from responsibilities (and I have no shame in admitting that because nobody is perfect), he is a man who shoulders responsibilities with utmost determination and the same I observed at certain times.

With that, he is up for a help not only to his close aids everybody who comes to him and ask for the same. The best part is, he never yearns or craves recognition in lieu of the help he offers which has become a characteristic of this self-centered world. A caveat though, don’t mess up with him, his logics can tore you apart due to unstoppable laugh that comes along with them.

Well, he and Sushil are my close ones because they not only appreciate me (which a lot of people do) but also criticize me for any wrong doing at my face. (Which a lot of people do behind your back)

AYUSH: Jovial & Carefree:  It is easy to pass jokes’ on others, but tough to frame jokes on yourself and this is what this man does without thinking anything. A plump looking guy, who always fails in nervous 90’s when it comes to his weight and screams loudly to silent the whole class, his carefree nature and jovial attitude has sparked a fondness which makes us very good friends.

There were times in the initial days when I felt frustrated, totally out of sorts due to a tragic incident but felt a sense of happiness seeing him and meeting him. Our meeting is incomplete without a hug and I always believed that he might have been waging his own battles, but never lets’ them come out in his behavior. I know his screams hurts but know him deeply, he is very emotional lad.

SANCHI: Cool and Composed: I had not known her from close quarters’ till we performed in Induction and at placement times before that. A diminutive girl with a giant smile on her face and mild voice, I feel envious (in a positive sense) about her coolness and soft-spoken nature.

I still don’t know her fully but considering “action speaks louder than words” her actions have come under close observation and it has impressed me. I remember her sitting outside the interview room, waiting for her chance and juggling for the documents, she looked in no hurry. She might have been feeling butterflies inside (which is quite natural) but that never came out on her actions and face. I was awestruck because everybody of us were feeling the heat but she was there, sitting calmly as if she has all the time in the world.

In the evening, when she was selected, there was no craziness or any unexpected reaction and she was totally cool like MS Dhoni was after winning World Cup. This is highly admirable and I feel I have a lot to learn from her.

CHANDAN: Keen to learn & helping: This is yet another quality among all placement cell members’ which allows them to do their job with high integrity and responsibility. Since the start of college days, we shared good rapport with each other and that came to my rescue when he helped me out by arranging mock interviews (in which I performed badly).

He (including all placement cell members) considers his self-interest to be futile and work painstakingly for the one who actually seems capable of getting a job. Circumventing your self-interests and working for somebody’s good without asking for any kind of recognition is something which impressed me.

Possessing good soft-skills, his keenness to learn has inspired me because he doesn’t shy away in asking questions if he feels the need to do so. You can grow only by upgrading your knowledge constantly and he follows the principle.

BHAGYASHRI: Bold & Upfront: It is always tough to get a job profile which suits your personality but she has got the one. I was in a movie when the news of her selection broke out but congratulated her instantly because I felt good about that. The reason behind was the kind of personality she possess, it is a near perfect job for her.

Her boldness and the frankness (which is an essential ingredient of a marketing job) have impacted me and I see her as a good communicator who will convince even a layman for the products. We talk very often but there is something to learn from her and that’s why I felt the need to add her in this blog. 

7 habits of highly ineffective MBA's....!!!!!!!!

MBA- seemingly, one of the easiest courses to enter and pursue because of the abundant institutions' present in the country. But life becomes difficult once you enter and ending up with flying colors’ seems a forgone dream. To assume it as a piece of paper is an unpardonable sin because it is beyond that. It is a process of carving out a personality which inspires, to imbibe the values which lets’ you stand firm and to attain the knowledge and experience which is above the bookworm mindsets.

But as I met students across different institutes’, there are certain habits among them which makes them ineffective which are following:

Me ye kyu kar raha hu…!!!!!!!!!

Majority of crowd doesn't have an answer to this question because they have never thought upon that. The problem with a lot of them lies with the fact that they think about the question after taking the course rather than having a pre-assessment of the same. And they find themselves taking a wrong step at a right time.

Ab soch k fayda bh kyaaa……ab to beda gark ho gaya hai….!!!!!! Well, here are few possible answers:

·         -To fulfill the unsolicited wish of their parents’ who wants their son/daughters to pursue an MBA for maintaining a status in society. Warna, society wale kya sochege........!!!!

·        -To become the next Mrs. Verma/ Sharma/ Gupta etc. Unarguably, to marry a qualified boy with a handsome salary, one needs to hold a so-called degree to lure the boy. Afterall, USA ke hot beaches pe selfies kon lega….this type of girls suffers from identity crisis!!!!!

·         -Borne out of their herd mindset where they follow the footsteps of their close ones or every shit advice that comes across or because the guy next door is also doing the same......to hum kyu peeche rahe bhedchaal me......!!!!!

I know google has a demo answer to this question too…..but you can fool others’, not yourself……….!!!!!

Yeh dosti hum nahi chodege……!!!!!!!

I find this habit among ineffective MBA’s because I have seen people betraying their potential, subverting their decision and losing their respect just because of their friends for life. You search for people with same habits, culture, values, ethnicity etc. and form a group which seems redundant to me.

My observation says, those who form groups never get the ability to stand for their own and think on their own because they always have people around them, giving them the bullshit and unasked advice.

Friendship, in fact, is a beautiful part of their (and our) lives but when it starts to squeeze out more than what it imparts, the results endanger their own existence. They always seek the comfort zone they become habitual of, their decisions are affected by the decision of their group and they eternally declare…………. Rehna hai tumhari chaav mein…………!!!!!! 

As a result more people into their lives, more issues and more messed up life overall.

That’s why I always believe…….Har ek friend jaroori nahi hota hai……..!!!!!!! Aur jo tera hai wo mera nai hota hai…….!!!!!!!!!!

Make some noise for “ BRILLIANT” boyzzz……!!!!!!!!

This type of ineffective MBA’s start their aspirations by preparing for top-notch B-schools of country such as IIM’s, find themselves incompetent of making it through and sacrifice with a sub-standard degree college.

They fail not because of their incompetency but because of their attitude which continueds in the process of becoming a manager. They make BRILLIANT’s and YASHRAJ’s their favorite tool for last minute preparations and don’t take the plunge to refer to any books which can provide them substantial knowledge of that subject……and the truth gets revealed at placement times…..!!!!!

They always seek marks as the benchmark of success and adore the teachers’ who distributes marks in largess. They can do anything in lieu of marks, even sitting for a long lecture without getting anything meaningful out of it. Truth is that your achievement section should speak louder than marks section......!!!!!

To say the least……THEY AIM FOR “IIM” BUT WORK LIKE “IIN”

The reality is, if they keep a right attitude and approach, they can convert even an IIN into an IIM…….!!!!!

Panchayatiiiiii…….!!!!!!

Ask them about the recent hook-up, break-up, who’s dating whom, match-making, favorite outing destination, the color of t-shirt, rates of various party destinations, the visiting company in which they missed a chance, Facebook-Watsapp status etc. and they can have prolonged discussion and a Major Research on this topic.

Generally, they don’t lack research abilities but their application is scattered across the areas I mentioned above. They have a lot of panchayati about issues which are not relevant in their personal lives. Gossiping becomes their characteristic, bitching becomes their unending love and they discuss about people more than ideas in their life.

On the other hand, invite them for a discussion on a current topic, ask them to do thorough research before the session, ask them for an assignment which boosts creativity, ask them about the current economic scenario of country and other related issues, they are ready with cut/copy/paste methodology or google-logy in which they can be entitled a diploma certificate.

Bahanebaaji…….!!!!!!!

Excuses form the fabric of their persona, with which they try to hide their ineffectiveness. When they don’t get selected in a company, the excuse that comes out is “Yaar, ye company achi nahi h” “Iska package acha nahi hai” “Location achi nahi h” “Mjhe to private sector me jana hi nahi hai, yuhi beth raha/rahi hu”. But the fact of the matter is, it can appease them but can’t hide their inability.

They would rather prefer blaming it on college and lack of available resources when somebody questions their skills, which even they know is doubtful. They are creative enough to find new bahanaas for every new mistake they commit but their real creativity stay away every time.

And when they can’t find a valid excuse to hide their inefficiency, they say…… “My life, my choice…..”

Bol-vachan…..!!!!!!!

This type of people distribute half-baked knowledge in front of everyone, can discuss kuch bhi on Watsapp, can pass invalid comments on anyone without having any knowledge but hinder themselves from showing communication skills at an appropriate time.

Their netagiri takes the front stage when a party is to be organized, an outing is planned or any event is to be celebrated, they work enthusiastically because of the benefits attached to it but doesn't initiate anything when it matters the most. A leader is one who invites others’ on a journey but they are real netaas who stands for nothing in general and everything in particular.

A productive event is equal to GT…..!!!!!!!

For these kinds of students, they don’t participate in a productive event, conclave or a seminar and solemnly declare the day to be a GT (A new form of holiday which again speaks about their netagiri) because they don’t have the time/money for that. Exact opposite to that, they can pay any sum for a party, can spend hours in an apparel shop to show-off what they don’t possess but never participate at all where their skills can be improved.

They don’t participate because they fall into advice of someone who has always did the same…….relying on others’ opinions to go somewhere……….and the line that can be applied to those advisors is….

Jinhone meether angoor ka swaad hi nah ilia…..wo bolte hai ki angoor khatte h……..!!!!!!

Apart from that, if they are ready to participate, the first question that they ask is “Certificate milegaa kyaaa?” More worse was someone trying to apply his/her jugaad to get a certificate without actually participating in the event. This adds on to their resume and only resume and never adds on to their skill set……and in the process……they lag behind……..!!!!!!

Well, there are two type of people……ek….jo har chij me “BHAG” lete h……aur dusre……jo har chij se “BHAAG” lete hai……!!!!!!!!!!

(P.S: If  you find your habits matched with the one i mentioned above......very frankly..... Jaago baccho jaago......!!!!!)