Do you believe in god....????

DO YOU BELIEVE IN GOD………??????

This is the question I like to ask to everyone who is my close acquaintance as the answer of this question reflects how much unsatisfied we live in our own lives………….

The answer I get mostly is……

“No, because god hasn’t given me whatever I wished for………..”

In my recent frequent visits to Hospitals where people sob more than they smile, I came up with a striking realization that what I am, where I am and what I have is much better than people who survive for their lives day in day out and hence I must thank almighty for giving me whatever limited yet precious assets I have which can be better utilized to produce more………….

Well, as we grow more as an individual, some personal aspirations, wishes and desires arise naturally to us which when remained unfulfilled can take the better of us and hence to shift the burden of failure, we try to blame the existence of almighty………………who is conducting all the proceedings in front of us…………

We live unsatisfied throughout our lives………….because we don’t thank the almighty for what we have  and focus more on what we don’t have…………….which is born out of an uncanny habit of comparing ourselves or by useless virtue of asking for more………………

We can’t appreciate and value what we have, we go to temples for the sake of a personal desire and not by the eternal faith in god……..We ask for more and more as the thirst and desires are unquenchable………….Because……..

Mind likes to chase a promised happiness at the cost of an available one………

Live satisfied for what you have, where you are and focus more on generating higher returns out of that……….. Because…………God also helps those who helps and value themselves……..!!!!!!!

So when next time someone asks you this question......think twice before answering.....

A sweet anecdote…………

{He asked: Do you believe in god?

She replied: No, because god hasn’t given what I wished for……….

He replied momentarily: Mujhe bhi to nai manga tha phir bh to mil gaya naaaa………… :p :p }

Leave the crust out........

One day a highly spiritual man took his 4-year son to an Italian restaurant where they ordered some pasta and breads. As their order arrived, the little child took the bread and start cutting it to segregate the crust out of it while the man was still thinking as to how to eat the bread…………….

His son’s act of cutting the crust and eating the soft part of the bread initially bewildered him but the very next moment; it gave him a life-learning experience……………!!!!!!!!

The little boy had the wisdom to focus on the good part of the bread and leave the rest……!!!!!

We human being, as we grow up and become more of an individual, tend to give too much importance to the crust part of our life…………..we try to distract ourselves or rather are distracted by spending too much time on focusing the crust of our own lives rather than focusing on all good things that happen day in day out in our lives…………..

We focus on the restraints or the obstacles that slows down the progress………..we focus on future uncertainty that lies in front of us………..we focus on activities of people who don’t belong to our priority list…………..we focus on all the bad things that is happening with us………..

And in the process, we lose the ability to have positive thinking…………..!!!!!!!!!!!

Well our thoughts do form our world and what we think about does grow in our lives……..What we focus on will determine our destiny and hence……..

We must focus on the good stuff…………!!!!!!!

I would repeat the same lines again………

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“Life is not about managing what you have, it’s about managing what you don’t have……….”

Can love happen twice.......!!!!!!!!!

“Love is a spark which can’t be put into words……..”

Yet, I am doing it…………

Few days back, someone asked me if you truly loved her, then you can’t truly love another one, because it happens once and forever in life……….

Well, all the concerns and questions were logically right, but my reply was:

“You don’t leave watching a movie again when you have watched it once…..”

Because love is watching a movie again and again, where every other time you catch the small nuances of the movie very well and enjoy it a lot more than before………..

Frankly speaking, true love exists in every dimensions of our life, be it our parents, our beloved ones, our grandparents………..and last but not the least, the soul with whom you get attracted and both of them make a world of their own, unaware of  the proceedings in front of them………

And they try to make that world a beautiful reality……….!!!!!!!!!

True love is more about listening to your heart than your mind, being at your own-self rather than manipulating yourself, adjusting to never adjustable, making less impressions and letting other feel the divinity of it…………..

Well, you can’t fall in true love for umpteenth time, because

Even you can’t watch the same movie again and again and catch those nuances…………..

{P.S: Don’t ever ask me whether I have fallen into love once again, and if you desire to do so, have a look at the initial lines………}

Let's live the moment.......!!!!!!

“Past gives sorrows and future gives tensions………….”

Human mind, having that uncanny habit of thinking too far ahead and too far behind, piggybacks itself or pushes itself to thoughts of what has already lost and to what is beyond their control…………

Being conscious individuals, we always have the regret for a lost battle, for a lost opportunity, for a missed crush where our thoughts became full of if’s and but’s and those endless thoughts develops more sorrows and less confidence building moments for us……………

We engulf into thoughts of what if we could have done that or but there was that X constraint for us…………arguments and evaluation take the center stage and we find ourselves lost in the nostalgia…………

Also, being a country of thinkers who variably lacks action on those thoughts, we panic ourselves by the looming uncertainty of future; we make assumptions and predictions on our own and bet on a path which even astrologers fail to predict………..and thinking about those useless things, we become worried……..

Well, avoiding those thoughts itself seems to be a battle……….especially when you are a youngster…….who knows the opportunity cost of every missed one and the price of an upcoming one………….

But, thinking too far ahead and too far behind bury the present moment or opportunity for us………….hence let’s focus and cherish the moment……….don't compensate the present moment for a desired future moment or for a lost past moment.........

Because, life is not about managing what you have, it’s about managing what you don’t have……….!!!!!!!

So just chill without paying its bill..........!!!!!!!!

Don't feel Buried........

“Success is all about how you manage your failures……………”

Life is a rolling ball-game where success and failures are two vital components………….While everyone faces failures, its sheer management makes you successful…..

Get back your memory to those times when you have failed, failure in relationships which destroys emotional and mental stability, failure in any kind of investment which restricts you from investing further……

One of the common failure these days, failure of expectations- of others and of self- which sink your mind to thoughts of self-doubts and an unstable future…………clouds hover as to what is the way now………depression and self-agony tests your negativity which reaches to an extreme level………

And yet you are able to get out of those times, came out with flying colors, beaten all those self-doubts and came a long way to seek a better and fruitful life………………

In tough times, you may feel like its end, but in reality it’s the beginning………..

You must wonder why and how…………????????

Because every time you have failed, you came stronger and made yourself prepared to face the same challenge again, but with a different intensity and determination………..

Remember, at times of failures, do not consider yourself as buried, but you have been planted again to come back……….. Because you are a seed sent by god.

Age is just a number.....!!!!!!!!

There has been a large debate on the word “Maturity” as society has given it a definition where “an individual is said to be Mature when he attains a certain age”……. and yet it is hard to accept the principle that “whether maturity has any proportional relationship with the age”………….

Simply speaking, Maturity can be defined as “response of individual to given circumstances” or a more youthful definition can be “The way of speaking, walking, and behaving…etc.etc……”

Well, maturity is more of a process, a process of conquering half-won battles, a process of defying the odds and come out with flying colors, a process of maintaining mental forte in worst of the circumstances…………….

This ultimately gives an individual the “experiences” which can be either good or bad………….

The garnered experiences allow an individual to tackle a problem easily, to behave normally and to respond to the situations accordingly…………. Hence, maturity is more of a response sought from past experiences………..

And amid all this…………age just seems to be a number………!!!!!!!!!!

Remember, even old-age trees’ perish against the brutality of nature…………..just because they are not mature enough to handle the changing environment…………

[P.S.- My definitions might be wrong, I just tried to present a fact……….. I hope you are mature enough to understand…………]

Not a game of Pick and Choose......

While having a discussion with one of my friends about how having confined territory has damaged the prospects of having good relations with everyone, I said:

“ I want to end up with cordial relations with everyone, so that once I am out of the Institute, they can value me in the same manner as they do me now………”

As expected, the reply was:

“You can’t get everyone, you had to choose……..”

Well, to me friends are not products arranged in shelves of a departmental store where I can play the game of “pick and choose” with them. Friendship or any healthy relation is a river like flow where it augments day by day once you start following the flow…………. 

And while my concern never was to get everyone, my concern was not to lose anyone……………

And when you choose people for this eternal relationships where you feel comfortable with him/her, laugh your heart out unstoppably, play pranks and tricks, you might end up segmenting an individual according to class, color and many other petty variables……. You want him/her to be the way you see him/her and when it doesn’t happens, you are bound to regret…………

So never choose friends and let anyone choose you according to his/her comforts………..just be what you are and learn to follow the flow…………you will always get better ones than you could have chosen consciously……..!!!!!!!!!!

And remember, don’t disturb the flow, enjoy the journey……….