Can love happen twice.......!!!!!!!!!

“Love is a spark which can’t be put into words……..”

Yet, I am doing it…………

Few days back, someone asked me if you truly loved her, then you can’t truly love another one, because it happens once and forever in life……….

Well, all the concerns and questions were logically right, but my reply was:

“You don’t leave watching a movie again when you have watched it once…..”

Because love is watching a movie again and again, where every other time you catch the small nuances of the movie very well and enjoy it a lot more than before………..

Frankly speaking, true love exists in every dimensions of our life, be it our parents, our beloved ones, our grandparents………..and last but not the least, the soul with whom you get attracted and both of them make a world of their own, unaware of  the proceedings in front of them………

And they try to make that world a beautiful reality……….!!!!!!!!!

True love is more about listening to your heart than your mind, being at your own-self rather than manipulating yourself, adjusting to never adjustable, making less impressions and letting other feel the divinity of it…………..

Well, you can’t fall in true love for umpteenth time, because

Even you can’t watch the same movie again and again and catch those nuances…………..

{P.S: Don’t ever ask me whether I have fallen into love once again, and if you desire to do so, have a look at the initial lines………}

Let's live the moment.......!!!!!!

“Past gives sorrows and future gives tensions………….”

Human mind, having that uncanny habit of thinking too far ahead and too far behind, piggybacks itself or pushes itself to thoughts of what has already lost and to what is beyond their control…………

Being conscious individuals, we always have the regret for a lost battle, for a lost opportunity, for a missed crush where our thoughts became full of if’s and but’s and those endless thoughts develops more sorrows and less confidence building moments for us……………

We engulf into thoughts of what if we could have done that or but there was that X constraint for us…………arguments and evaluation take the center stage and we find ourselves lost in the nostalgia…………

Also, being a country of thinkers who variably lacks action on those thoughts, we panic ourselves by the looming uncertainty of future; we make assumptions and predictions on our own and bet on a path which even astrologers fail to predict………..and thinking about those useless things, we become worried……..

Well, avoiding those thoughts itself seems to be a battle……….especially when you are a youngster…….who knows the opportunity cost of every missed one and the price of an upcoming one………….

But, thinking too far ahead and too far behind bury the present moment or opportunity for us………….hence let’s focus and cherish the moment……….don't compensate the present moment for a desired future moment or for a lost past moment.........

Because, life is not about managing what you have, it’s about managing what you don’t have……….!!!!!!!

So just chill without paying its bill..........!!!!!!!!

Don't feel Buried........

“Success is all about how you manage your failures……………”

Life is a rolling ball-game where success and failures are two vital components………….While everyone faces failures, its sheer management makes you successful…..

Get back your memory to those times when you have failed, failure in relationships which destroys emotional and mental stability, failure in any kind of investment which restricts you from investing further……

One of the common failure these days, failure of expectations- of others and of self- which sink your mind to thoughts of self-doubts and an unstable future…………clouds hover as to what is the way now………depression and self-agony tests your negativity which reaches to an extreme level………

And yet you are able to get out of those times, came out with flying colors, beaten all those self-doubts and came a long way to seek a better and fruitful life………………

In tough times, you may feel like its end, but in reality it’s the beginning………..

You must wonder why and how…………????????

Because every time you have failed, you came stronger and made yourself prepared to face the same challenge again, but with a different intensity and determination………..

Remember, at times of failures, do not consider yourself as buried, but you have been planted again to come back……….. Because you are a seed sent by god.

Age is just a number.....!!!!!!!!

There has been a large debate on the word “Maturity” as society has given it a definition where “an individual is said to be Mature when he attains a certain age”……. and yet it is hard to accept the principle that “whether maturity has any proportional relationship with the age”………….

Simply speaking, Maturity can be defined as “response of individual to given circumstances” or a more youthful definition can be “The way of speaking, walking, and behaving…etc.etc……”

Well, maturity is more of a process, a process of conquering half-won battles, a process of defying the odds and come out with flying colors, a process of maintaining mental forte in worst of the circumstances…………….

This ultimately gives an individual the “experiences” which can be either good or bad………….

The garnered experiences allow an individual to tackle a problem easily, to behave normally and to respond to the situations accordingly…………. Hence, maturity is more of a response sought from past experiences………..

And amid all this…………age just seems to be a number………!!!!!!!!!!

Remember, even old-age trees’ perish against the brutality of nature…………..just because they are not mature enough to handle the changing environment…………

[P.S.- My definitions might be wrong, I just tried to present a fact……….. I hope you are mature enough to understand…………]

Not a game of Pick and Choose......

While having a discussion with one of my friends about how having confined territory has damaged the prospects of having good relations with everyone, I said:

“ I want to end up with cordial relations with everyone, so that once I am out of the Institute, they can value me in the same manner as they do me now………”

As expected, the reply was:

“You can’t get everyone, you had to choose……..”

Well, to me friends are not products arranged in shelves of a departmental store where I can play the game of “pick and choose” with them. Friendship or any healthy relation is a river like flow where it augments day by day once you start following the flow…………. 

And while my concern never was to get everyone, my concern was not to lose anyone……………

And when you choose people for this eternal relationships where you feel comfortable with him/her, laugh your heart out unstoppably, play pranks and tricks, you might end up segmenting an individual according to class, color and many other petty variables……. You want him/her to be the way you see him/her and when it doesn’t happens, you are bound to regret…………

So never choose friends and let anyone choose you according to his/her comforts………..just be what you are and learn to follow the flow…………you will always get better ones than you could have chosen consciously……..!!!!!!!!!!

And remember, don’t disturb the flow, enjoy the journey……….

Because we don't Understand........!!!!!!

One of my close friends annoyingly told me the other day “I am obsessed with the coddling behavior of my grandmother…….”

While his obsession was highly characterized by the communication gap that commonly prevails in this type of relationships where one is eager to discuss the sleazy movements of Shakira while other is up with the  finesse elegance Madhubala had in their times…………. 

While being social is confined to Facebook and Watsapp for the younger generation, the older ones still believe in talking……… while one is firm believer in old is gold, another is yet to acquiesce the rule…….

Hence the bugaboo was quite justifiable………..!!!!!!!!!!!

For me, the whole sojourn of life has been scattered akin to accounting process where the adolescence is as simplified as Journal where the scope of any mistake is narrow and as we grow further, we balance all the assets and liabilities in the last phase of life……..

While she is in the phase where she wants to balance all her assets and liabilities, he being one of her assets, desires to have some insights which can simplify his own life……..she can have all the comforting apparatus, but she is there to spend some time with him, imparting her love and affection towards him……..!!!!!!!

And yet everyone has to cross all this phases of life to complete it, rather than telling I love you and I respect you, one must tell her I Understand you.......!!!!!!!!!!!

Because what you reap is what you sow……..!!!!!!!!!!!!

What lies beneath................

They say “A Girl and a boy can’t be good friends…”

And I say “Why they can’t….??????????

At first we groaned at each other expressing our discomfort towards each other’s presence on account of some hypothetical perceptions our adolescence minds have made………..but she seems interesting from the outset and  there was much yet to be known about her……..

Although I being stupidly shy guy at that time, few years back we met formally and conversed with each other…….the conversation soon turned out to chatting and meeting and in a two months’ time, we became very good friends……. (It would be stupid to call her “Best Friend” as I can’t distinguish between a friend and a “Best Friend”)

A sense of belonging developed within us where we shared everything between us……….relationships, attractions, problems, personal upheavals, mood swings……  and soon it was known to my other close friends also and they bantered me claiming that there is something cooking between us more than friendship………….

Yaar ye bacche bhi naa....apne baare me kya kya sochte h......:p

I was always ready with a justification to appease their doubts and raised eye-brows but everything seemed futile to them…...while love is more of an emotion and friendship is more of a connection and hence getting into someone’s personal arena doesn’t justify being in love…….

Although we are no more friends as of now, there are positive vibes to be felt about her, but an evidently robust friendship must not be an omen of relationships elevating to the next level…………..as being a die-hard friend is much better than being a bogus boyfriend………!!!!!!!!!

Hence what they say is what they see ………….!!!!!!!!!!! without knowing what lies beneath....................

[P.S: When she said to me that there is a story taking a troll that we are in a relationship, I simply said her “That means our friendship is very robust……..!!!!!!!]