Don't feel Buried........

“Success is all about how you manage your failures……………”

Life is a rolling ball-game where success and failures are two vital components………….While everyone faces failures, its sheer management makes you successful…..

Get back your memory to those times when you have failed, failure in relationships which destroys emotional and mental stability, failure in any kind of investment which restricts you from investing further……

One of the common failure these days, failure of expectations- of others and of self- which sink your mind to thoughts of self-doubts and an unstable future…………clouds hover as to what is the way now………depression and self-agony tests your negativity which reaches to an extreme level………

And yet you are able to get out of those times, came out with flying colors, beaten all those self-doubts and came a long way to seek a better and fruitful life………………

In tough times, you may feel like its end, but in reality it’s the beginning………..

You must wonder why and how…………????????

Because every time you have failed, you came stronger and made yourself prepared to face the same challenge again, but with a different intensity and determination………..

Remember, at times of failures, do not consider yourself as buried, but you have been planted again to come back……….. Because you are a seed sent by god.

Age is just a number.....!!!!!!!!

There has been a large debate on the word “Maturity” as society has given it a definition where “an individual is said to be Mature when he attains a certain age”……. and yet it is hard to accept the principle that “whether maturity has any proportional relationship with the age”………….

Simply speaking, Maturity can be defined as “response of individual to given circumstances” or a more youthful definition can be “The way of speaking, walking, and behaving…etc.etc……”

Well, maturity is more of a process, a process of conquering half-won battles, a process of defying the odds and come out with flying colors, a process of maintaining mental forte in worst of the circumstances…………….

This ultimately gives an individual the “experiences” which can be either good or bad………….

The garnered experiences allow an individual to tackle a problem easily, to behave normally and to respond to the situations accordingly…………. Hence, maturity is more of a response sought from past experiences………..

And amid all this…………age just seems to be a number………!!!!!!!!!!

Remember, even old-age trees’ perish against the brutality of nature…………..just because they are not mature enough to handle the changing environment…………

[P.S.- My definitions might be wrong, I just tried to present a fact……….. I hope you are mature enough to understand…………]

Not a game of Pick and Choose......

While having a discussion with one of my friends about how having confined territory has damaged the prospects of having good relations with everyone, I said:

“ I want to end up with cordial relations with everyone, so that once I am out of the Institute, they can value me in the same manner as they do me now………”

As expected, the reply was:

“You can’t get everyone, you had to choose……..”

Well, to me friends are not products arranged in shelves of a departmental store where I can play the game of “pick and choose” with them. Friendship or any healthy relation is a river like flow where it augments day by day once you start following the flow…………. 

And while my concern never was to get everyone, my concern was not to lose anyone……………

And when you choose people for this eternal relationships where you feel comfortable with him/her, laugh your heart out unstoppably, play pranks and tricks, you might end up segmenting an individual according to class, color and many other petty variables……. You want him/her to be the way you see him/her and when it doesn’t happens, you are bound to regret…………

So never choose friends and let anyone choose you according to his/her comforts………..just be what you are and learn to follow the flow…………you will always get better ones than you could have chosen consciously……..!!!!!!!!!!

And remember, don’t disturb the flow, enjoy the journey……….

Because we don't Understand........!!!!!!

One of my close friends annoyingly told me the other day “I am obsessed with the coddling behavior of my grandmother…….”

While his obsession was highly characterized by the communication gap that commonly prevails in this type of relationships where one is eager to discuss the sleazy movements of Shakira while other is up with the  finesse elegance Madhubala had in their times…………. 

While being social is confined to Facebook and Watsapp for the younger generation, the older ones still believe in talking……… while one is firm believer in old is gold, another is yet to acquiesce the rule…….

Hence the bugaboo was quite justifiable………..!!!!!!!!!!!

For me, the whole sojourn of life has been scattered akin to accounting process where the adolescence is as simplified as Journal where the scope of any mistake is narrow and as we grow further, we balance all the assets and liabilities in the last phase of life……..

While she is in the phase where she wants to balance all her assets and liabilities, he being one of her assets, desires to have some insights which can simplify his own life……..she can have all the comforting apparatus, but she is there to spend some time with him, imparting her love and affection towards him……..!!!!!!!

And yet everyone has to cross all this phases of life to complete it, rather than telling I love you and I respect you, one must tell her I Understand you.......!!!!!!!!!!!

Because what you reap is what you sow……..!!!!!!!!!!!!

What lies beneath................

They say “A Girl and a boy can’t be good friends…”

And I say “Why they can’t….??????????

At first we groaned at each other expressing our discomfort towards each other’s presence on account of some hypothetical perceptions our adolescence minds have made………..but she seems interesting from the outset and  there was much yet to be known about her……..

Although I being stupidly shy guy at that time, few years back we met formally and conversed with each other…….the conversation soon turned out to chatting and meeting and in a two months’ time, we became very good friends……. (It would be stupid to call her “Best Friend” as I can’t distinguish between a friend and a “Best Friend”)

A sense of belonging developed within us where we shared everything between us……….relationships, attractions, problems, personal upheavals, mood swings……  and soon it was known to my other close friends also and they bantered me claiming that there is something cooking between us more than friendship………….

Yaar ye bacche bhi naa....apne baare me kya kya sochte h......:p

I was always ready with a justification to appease their doubts and raised eye-brows but everything seemed futile to them…...while love is more of an emotion and friendship is more of a connection and hence getting into someone’s personal arena doesn’t justify being in love…….

Although we are no more friends as of now, there are positive vibes to be felt about her, but an evidently robust friendship must not be an omen of relationships elevating to the next level…………..as being a die-hard friend is much better than being a bogus boyfriend………!!!!!!!!!

Hence what they say is what they see ………….!!!!!!!!!!! without knowing what lies beneath....................

[P.S: When she said to me that there is a story taking a troll that we are in a relationship, I simply said her “That means our friendship is very robust……..!!!!!!!]

Unconditional Calmness.....!!!!!!!!!!!

They say “Silence is the best weapon in conflicting situations………. But hard to use and practice especially when you are an angry young man…….”

Because you trust your chauvinism……..!!!!!!!!!!!

Few years’ back one of my very close acquaintances was indulged in a fracas with me which was a consequence of a trifle misunderstanding……….. His parlance of contempt towards me started and ended with all the profane adjectives that he could throw upon me…………….. I hope you understand my parlance this time……..!!!!!!!!!!!!

Looking back at that time from now, me was more of a short-tempered and frustrated fellow whose career was dwindling and was yet to reach the desired shore which was creating that restlessness in me and hence consequently all that was coming out in substituted forms……………

but much opposite to my anticipation, I remained calm and placid in the whole incident, as if a school teacher has asked me to stay silent, much surprisingly in a situation where it is hard to control yourself being a young fellow………!!!!!!!!!!

But here I was,  used that weapon of my armory and in the end he gave up…….but I found more of a matured man in me……….and that was the only silver-lining of the whole incident…..!!!!!!!!!!

[All the adjectives that he used are more of a substitutes to cover up one's own-frustration..........!!!!!!!!!!]

Take it sportingly........!!!!!!!!!!!

Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to unhealthy state of things……………said Winston Churchill……….!!!!!!!!!!!!

While the exercise undertaken in the business communication class was partly a narrative of the personality flaws we possess and partly the established perception others have carried over the years, that was the need of the hour as it reveals some arcane flaws or unhealthy state of things………..

It is the prerogative given to humankind to judge and criticize since the day they have been imparted with logical and conscience thinking ability…………but there is a flaw that those who criticize don’t want themselves to be criticized and that’s what was done in that exercise……………..an upfront criticism of what we do not have or if we have that what’s wrong with that………….

It might have left most of you annoyed, astounded, befuddled as it was tough to accept what others perceived about you, but that criticism can be taken positively also as criticism allows you to improvise yourself, repair the blemished image and come back again as an improved personality which helps in the long run…………..so there is a huge need to take that criticism positively and sportingly as it benefits us………….

“Still, you were able to know the bad things in you………..I was not able to know that even”…………said one of my friends when I talked to her about this exercise…………….. (as no one has written about her…………..)

Hence, if someone has pointed something wrong in you, this means that you are not being neglected and you still have a very good chance to improvise…..or rather you can improve and succeed………..because…..

No matter how badly Uday Chopra acts, he would rather want to be criticized rather than neglected………………as it gives him a chance to bounce back, to come back as a good actor on screen……………………

So take criticism sportingly and improvise…………….!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

P.S: While for the positives everyone written about persons in their proximity, for negative they chose to write about a distant person, about whom they can only carry perceptions as they don’t know him/her as much as person in proximity………….