Conversations with god-4

Annoyed by everybody's obsession with the marks and the percentage............I inquired to god......... 

Why everybody goes gaga over their marks. It’s a mere reflection of someone’s capabilities?

Look, the society has made it like that over the years. People who are respected are people who are toppers in their schools; people who are applauded are people who are gold medalist. In the process, capabilities have dried up, innovation is a forgone past leaving out the exception and interpersonal skills have declined.

This is the reason everybody loves seeing himself/herself scoring good marks and gets applauded. But more important is your attitude after securing those marks.

But why society has made it like that?

See, as a student everyone wants to see him/ her getting appreciation from people around them and this is a benchmark used by them to do the same. Companies use criteria to churn the best minds. Society has no fault in that, faulty line is mentality.

Mind is not the problem, mindset is…………!!!!!!!

It is a mere reflection of your capabilities........syllabus of life has more chapters.........

Can’t we remove this benchmark and come up with something new?

You can try for that but over the years you have also grown up doing that. We are going on a double sided path where at one stage innovation, with the help of technology, has made lives easier but at the same time, has fed human being with a golden spoon.

Everybody is becoming a slave of their own expectations and simultaneously run for fulfilling expectations of people around them. There is no way out right now.

So, should we let the situation becoming worse from bad?

Well, not exactly. Everybody has its own choices and own conscience. They are the best observer of their own capabilities and hence they should decide whether to run for marks or to run for quality. People who run for marks are people who become disabled in the long run.

Because in the long run, money doesn’t chase marks, it chases quality………..!!!!!!!!!!!!!g

Strange but effective.........!!!!!

LIFE@IMS- Interesting, Magnifying, Serene………… yet there are more dimensions to this journey. The journey, destination of which is not yet decided because it is more or less in your own hands, is not only about earning those lofty packages, yearning for the charm of holy bath…….it is beyond that……. It will be transformational, if pursued effectively, but will add nothing to your skills if pursued ineffectively…….

It is a journey of making yourself a good individual at first place, a good leader at second place and a good manager at third………..and hence the journey can be full of surprises, you will come across every sort of people-good or bad but will add to your learning basket, would be eventful, would be stagnant too……… but improvement never stops…….!!!!!!!!!

But how to do that…………..here are some strange but effective advice…………….

Don't run for marks: We live in a society where marks are given preference over skills and therefore i see everybody around me running for marks because we have made ourselves like that. No marks, no gain but the reality is money chase quality, not marks. Hence, maintain a steady pointers, but don't yearn for marks sacrificing the abilities and skills.

A 70% with excellent co-curricular is much better than a 90% with nothing.

“Me engineer hu” psychology: This is one of the most highly found disease among engineers, a barrier which they have created themselves. At one point, they boast of being open to learning but create a psychological barrier of “Me Engineer hu” which limits their potential. Overcome this mental stigma as soon as possible so that you can perform effectively. Nobody is perfect, even commerce students aren’t and therefore fight the battle and cope yourself with the sea of finance, otherwise consequences can be brutal. Remember, when you make a choice, you choose its consequences also.

Remove Xenophobia (Fear of strangers): Over the ages, human being is considered to be a social animal but I see the exact opposite of it. Human being is fearful of strangers; want to live in its own interiors which restrict the growth. As my journey at IMS progressed I realized that not communicating with students from other branches was a mistake as I could have learned a lot from them. Removing another mental stigma, fear of strangers, will give your learning basket a new dimension. Communicate with students from your own class, of other branches and be a social individual. After all, growth is the ultimate result of learning.

Step out of your comfort zones: As we begin our college days, we seek our comfort zones from the day one itself. A zone where we can act freely, can behave as per what we are and a zone where we are not altered. You find 3-4 common set of people which you call a group of yours. Every other outing begins with them, ends at them. It’s good to have a common set of people around you but limit them to your personal life. Step out of your comfort zone and sit with the ugliest guy of the class, to whom you don’t like talking to. Give presentations with a group of people you hate or people you like most. Your perceptions will change and so do your canvas of thinking. 

People who are successful are the ones who perform well out of their comfort zones.......!!!!!!

Opposite gender FORMULA: This is the most strange but highly effective theory to get rid of your hesitation. Propounded by Anandita Mam which I find really well at all times states that “You must sit with your opposite gender every day. That opposite gender must not be the same everyday” The logic behind this formula is that two girls end up in gossiping, become a chatter box to each other and two boys end up themselves doing unacceptable mistakes, sharing adult jokes etc.

You won’t find the same set of people after two years, they will be changing constantly. A girl would be expected to work in shifts in a team and hence prepare for that in advance.

This journey is not about a small destination; destinations are in your hands, so make the journey a learning one and raise yourself. Increase your panorama of where you want to place yourself……….because you become what you think of yourself………….!!!!!!!!!

{Well, some of you might find this advice strange to apply but they are the most influential ones. I have personally tested them and came up with awe-inspiring results.}

5 things to do at IMS.......!!!!!!!!

As we enter into IMS for “pursuit of becoming a manager”, ending up being “Half manager” is a victory. You find new people, search for a new set of friends, new crushes, excitement of making your mark in the classroom so that the one you like can catch you, introductions, inductions, parties, placement related queries………..everything sets on really well, bunks, canteen, roadside parties, selfies, groupfies……..and amid that…..little bit of studies……..

And very soon…….you are in the exam hall giving the exams……a bit angry and a bit confused…..balance sheet doesn’t match, economics still confound you, IT gives a shit, ethics itself promote unethical ways and you see yourself missing the bus…….. Well, don’t worry…….you can still pledge yourself to be good in the next six months……..here are few things you must do in the time to come……..

1. Set your own standards: While you do anything- presentations, assignments, internal exams- it is necessary to set you own standards which will act as a mirror once you find yourself below those standards. It means setting your own benchmarks and sticking to that. In a presentation, if guy next to you is not in formals and you are following him, you are bound to face consequences a year down the line. Analyze your performances, compare with your benchmark and improve upon that. Believe me, it works well. You are here to become something, not anything.

2. Become everything from nothing: It simply refers towards utilizing every opportunity that comes your way. Have participation in activities with utmost interest; be there not for certificates but for winning and learning. Add value to your average CGPA’s by making the most of every opportunity. Being in IMS, a lot of us undermine ourselves in terms of knowledge and skills but recently few guys beat teams from IIM in IIM-Indore in quizzes. If they can do it, why you can’t. They don’t have a different DNA, but possess different aspirations. If you don’t participate, be ready to precipitate.

3. Don’t show off: We live in a novelty, self-created world where we firmly believing in showing off ourselves with second copy of Armaani watch, Wrangler denim and an expensive gadget. Nobody gives a shit to what you wear and those who give a shit actually remain in that shit only. Raise yourself above those fake presentations because circumstances reveal the truth. Wear what suits you and not what suits the eyes of others. Remember, beauty lies in the simplicity.

 4. Ask for feedbacks: This is yet another, but most important thing you must do. I used to take my personality feedbacks from girls and get myself rated on several personality variables. It doesn’t necessarily mean you work on every feedback, but must decide on your own conscience. Because, this is the only way of improving and making yourself a fit product for anybody. Sometimes it can be annoying also but keep in mind; feedback that annoy you are the feedback that you need to work on.

5. Keep good coterie of friends: You will come across a lot of people but keep yourself in good company. If somebody is hugely better than you, be his friend and absorb his/her qualities. It doesn’t mean avoiding other individuals but having good company makes a huge difference as I have met a lot of people who are busy wasting their most of times with their friends who are adding no value to them. Be with people who can add value to your objectives. Don’t flow into a river which is taking you nowhere.

"There is no place for regrets......an opportunity missed is an opportunity denied......"